This Monday I am getting my tubes tied. I'm 29 and I'm getting my tubes tied. It's happening. I've had some mixed reactions from people so I thought I'd explain my reasoning behind this decision.
1. My Mental Health:
I struggle with some serious mental health issues that have plagued me since I was 15. I just found a medication combination that keeps me stable, happy and able to live my life. When I don't take my medication, I'm crying all the time, I'm angrier, much more impatient and generally an un-fun person to be around. When I get pregnant, I get crazier. Medications need to be adjusted and hormones need to be dealt with. Then after the pregnancy, I'm prone to Postpartum Depression which makes that 6 months of my life a roller coaster of nonsense. It's a whole lot of crazy that strains my relationships with others and makes my life miserable. That was the main reasoning behind my decision.
2. I Was Failed By Birth Control Once:
I was ON birth control when I got pregnant with baby Wallace. He must have really needed to come into the world. So now I'm much more wary of traditional birth control. I know the chances of it happening again are probably mind-numbingly slim, I'd just rather not take that chance.
3. The M Word:
We can't afford any more children. Money is a factor in most of our life decisions and we honestly do not feel it would be fiscally responsible for us to have another child. That's just our situation. I am sure it would probably work out if we felt strongly we needed to have another one but, as you might already assume, I have not had that strong feeling.
4. It Feels Right For Me:
I'm not saying every 29 year old should run out and get this procedure, I'm saying that it's what I feel is right for me and my body. Pregnancy is hard for me, mentally and physically. None of my pregnancies have been easy ones and this last one was especially difficult. I wanted smooth pregnancies so badly, but they just weren't in my cards.