For some men, the idea of "going all night" - or even lasting beyond five or ten minutes - seems like a dream. However, delayed release can be a real problem for some men (and their partners); it can also indicate an underlying health condition. There are several different ways in which delayed release can manifest, with some men completely unable to release and others needing more than 30 minutes of stimulation in order to do so. Determining what male organ care steps will successfully help a man manage this condition requires learning more about the different types, identifying the source and, in some cases, seeking medical treatment.
Types of Delayed Release
There are four general categories of this condition:
- Generalized: an inability to or difficulty finishing in any sensual situation
- Situational: an inability to or difficulty finishing in certain sensual situations (e.g. some men can only release with oral stimulation, manual stimulation or certain partners)
- Lifelong: presence of the condition since the time of maturity
- Acquired: when the condition develops after a period of normal function
Identifying which categories a man's condition falls into will help him, along with medical professionals, work toward finding the source.
There are many potential causes of delayed release. Although all men for whom this condition is problematic would do well to run it by a health professional, those with lifelong and/or generalized delayed release should definitely do so, as these forms of the condition likely indicate a health problem. When acquired, it may also indicate the onset of a medical or psychological issue. Situational delayed release generally requires some behavioral changes in order to subside.
The following four categories of causes may be behind the condition:
- Birth defects
- Injured pelvic nerves
- Surgery to the prostate
- Urinary tract or prostate infections
- Heart disease
- Low hormone levels
- Poor communication with partner
- Commitment issues
- Anxiety (performance or otherwise)
- Incongruence between fantasies and sensual realities
- Cultural or religious concerns
- Self-pleasuring very frequently and/or with a very tight grip (which train the male organ only to respond to those specific types of stimulation)
- Viewing extreme adult videos (which also trains the male organ to respond to a narrow range of situations/images)
- High alcohol consumption (acute or chronic)
- Some antipsychotics
- Some diuretics
- Some blood pressure medications
- Many antidepressants
How to Get Help
If delayed release is causing relationship problems for one or both partners, or if it may indicate a health condition, men should seek out the assistance of a doctor. If a medical condition is behind the issue, treating the underlying condition is the answer. This may involve medications and/or healthy lifestyle changes to combat both conditions at once.
Psychological causes of delayed release may merit some time in therapy. Cognitive behavioral therapy is wonderful for people who could use help dealing with stress, anxiety and/or depression. Relationship counseling, or simply working toward more open communication with a partner, can help men whose condition is caused by such problems.
Some men will need to switch up their self-pleasuring habits in order to fully enjoy the touch, mouth, rear and/or female organ of a partner again. Cutting back or taking a one-month break from the practice, then reintroducing the male organ to gentler sensations, can be immensely helpful. A couple might also experiment with different positions. If a man can only get off on the pressure applied by a hand or mouth, a partner can squeeze her legs together during intimate activity to create a tighter canal for the man, for example.
Finally, if a substance is behind delayed release, men may work with their doctors to change medications; they may also need to work on their drinking habit if one is present.