How to defeat fear of the unknown

How to defeat fear of the unknown

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Under the influence of fear of the unknown, a person is sure of his own failure, and often prefers not to perform any actions at all to achieve success. The most interesting thing is that, being a passive observer of the course of his own life, a person is afraid not of failure itself, but the impossibility of determining the further development of events.

Fear of the unknown can be caused by any events, the result of which a person is not able to predict for sure, or with which a person has not previously encountered.

In people with a strong nervous system, the wait is less painful, but in most people there is a change in appetite, sleep disturbances, distraction, excitement, etc.

There is also one very important feature that distinguishes fear of the unknown from other types of fear - most of the fears are caused by real external factors that negatively affect a person and make him doubt his own capabilities. Fear of the unknown is usually caused by the results of the activities of human imagination. In other words, a person creates his own fears, and then he himself suffers from them. Plus to everything - the human consciousness is used to giving everything unknown a negative connotation.

Fear of the unknown is also dangerous because it not only prevents a person from effectively achieving his goals, but is also quite capable of causing the development of the disease.

How to overcome fear of the unknown? In order to avoid this exhausting expectation of the unknown, there are several simple and effective tricks.

  1. Logical analysis of the worst case scenario. When you fear the unknown, you should consider in detail each of the possible scenarios and choose the worst one. When you clearly understand all the possible outcomes, they will cease to be unknown to you, and the fear of the unknown for a given situation will disappear. In addition, knowing about the likely losses when making an important life decision, a person will find that the consequences are not at all as catastrophic as he imagined, which will allow him to be more confident.
  2. Divide your fear into several parts. It is much easier to overcome a small fear than a substantial one. Try to divide your fear into several stages and go through them in turn. So, if you are afraid to jump into the water from a 30-meter height, first cover the distance of 5 meters, then 10, 15, 25 meters. Overcoming all new heights each time, your fear will disappear, and you will confidently jump into the water from 30 meters.
  3. Take action! Reassure yourself that your fear of the unknown is a common defensive reaction to unfamiliar actions, and no matter what, continue to act in the chosen direction, thereby stepping over your well-established beliefs in life. Remember, when you make an important decision or perform an action that goes against your beliefs, the longer you hesitate, the more fear of the unknown engulfs you, and the more difficult it is to overcome this fear later.
  4. Analyze the real danger of the unknown.
  5. Work on improving your self-esteem. Fear of the unknown is overcome easily and confidently when a person believes in his own strength, in the fact that he is able to overcome any obstacles, even the most unexpected ones. To increase your confidence, follow these important guidelines:
  • Don't be afraid to be proactive. If the truth is not on your side, the maximum that threatens you is to be misunderstood by others. However, if your initiative is appropriate, you can get even more than you yourself could expect;
  • Don't be overly critical of other people. None of us are perfect, and therefore you need to be more tolerant of other people's shortcomings. If you constantly criticize other people, then you admit that you yourself can be the object of criticism of others, which affects your self-esteem;
  • Be friendlier to people and they will love you. We live in a society of other people, and whether we want it or not, but to maintain high self-esteem is possible by maintaining connections with other people. Being an egoist, concentrating exclusively on his own desires and needs, a person will alienate other people;
  • Get up in the morning in a cheerful mood, confident that you will succeed today. If you are used to getting out of bed feeling doomed every morning, then you will have to work on it. Try meditation, visualization techniques. Every time you go to bed at night, tune in to a positive mood - this state will be transmitted to you in the morning mood;
  • Engage in activities that bring you pleasure. When a person does what he likes, he achieves more success, and even the smallest success significantly increases a person's self-esteem.

So, for all your fears of the unknown, you should take the next step, and let the above guidelines help you with that.

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