Of course, there are no universal rules for raising children, because every child is an individual. But there are some taboos that should not be crossed.
Never tell your child that he is a bad, stupid, loser. Even if you yourself believe in it, the child does not need to know that he has disappointed you. Don't program it to fail. Choose your words carefully, explain what to do, otherwise you will simply injure your child and lower his self-esteem for life.
Do not demand too much from your child. Take him as he is. Even if at the age of 10 he still has not learned to tie shoelaces, this is not a cause for concern, abuse and humiliation.
To correct bad behavior in your child, first of all focus on your behavior and attitude towards him. Do not try to get him to behave well or get a good grade using force.
Don't deprive your child of choices.
Don't make fun of your child. Even if he's really awkward.
Don't comment all actions of your child. When you take too much care of a child, you diminish his importance in his own eyes, and he will just get used to the thought that he is not able to do anything on his own. From such children often grow up a lack of initiative individuals who go with the flow, are not able to solve their problems, they are easy to manipulate and control.
Do not take out your grievances, your bad mood on the child, do not drag him into conflicts with your spouse.
Do not indulge your child. Be consistent. If you prohibit something, the prohibition should remain so regardless of the circumstances. You must draw a clear line between what is allowed and what is not.
Parental lies. Sooner or later, the child will understand that his parents are deceiving him and then there is no need to wait for honesty in return. Be honest with your children and teach them by your positive examples.
Dr. Chet D Johnson, MD works in
Overland Park, Kansas is a specialist in Pediatric Developmental Behavioral Health, Pediatrics, Neurodevelopment Disabilities and graduated University Of Kansas School Of Medicine in 1979. Dr. Johnson is affiliated with Overland Park Regional Medical Center and practicing for 40 years
Dr. Christine T Barry, PHD works in
Cleveland, Ohio is a specialist in Pediatric Developmental Behavioral Health and graduated Ball State University in 1991. Dr. Barry is affiliated with University Hospitals Case Medical Center and practicing for 28 years
Dr. Denise A Bothe, MD works in
Cleveland, Ohio is a specialist in Pediatric Developmental Behavioral Health, Pediatrics and graduated Albany Memorial Hospital in 1996. Dr. Bothe is affiliated with University Hospitals Case Medical Center and practicing for 26 years
Dr. Jeffrey I Schulman, MD works in
Creve Coeur, Missouri is a specialist in Pediatric Developmental Behavioral Health, Pediatrics, Psychiatry, Adolescent Psychiatry & Pediatric Psychiatry and graduated University Of Kentucky College Of Medicine in 1970. Dr. Schulmanand practicing for 49 years